There was a time when I would watch a movie and be so taken by the beauty of the setting that I would want to visit it with Ray. Today, I’m suspicious that almost every perfect setting I see in a movie is digitalized. A computer program has created a make-believe world which can never be physically visited.
The same is true with the gardens in movies. The flowers they show in full bloom all around a house are generally fake. Perennial summer plants can’t all bloom at the same time. The perfect gardens shown in movies are make-believe flowers in a make-believe world. Knowing that has made me a gardener with more realistic expectations, and greater appreciation for what blooms for me, and when.
Gay guesthouses create unrealistic expectations, as do gay cruises. Their ads or promotional brochures never show older, slightly overweight, pale white men lounging around the pool, which is often the reality. Instead, we are led to believe that if we stay or travel with them, we’ll be in the company of smiling, young, muscled, handsome guys who can’t wait for us to arrive.
And it’s not just movie directors and gay male merchandisers who create fantasy worlds. The recruiting brochures of private schools show students of mixed races fraternizing happily, something that recent news stories tell us isn’t quite true. Minority students are often shocked and disappointed to find out how isolated they are. The same is true for corporate ads that highlight the diversity of their workforce. Prospective employees need to remember that while gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people work at the company without blatant discrimination, the picture they’re getting of daily life is airbrushed. Read more…