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Archive for May, 2011

Hello and Goodbye

Sunday, May 8th, 2011

Thirty-five years ago today I said, "Hello" to Ray for the first time. It was in Boston. I was moving into his apartment with my Irish setter Jeremy, a small U-Haul of possessions, and no intention of entering another long-term relationship. Ray got into my red Opel wagon to guide me home. He did indeed.

A couple of weeks ago, I sat with a friend at Starbucks who spoke with fear that he would cry as he described his life without his recently departed life partner. He’s no longer able to play the music they loved, nor banter with his employees. He wears his lover’s T-shirts to bed to feel close, and to be able to sleep. When he said, "Goodbye," he thought he was prepared to let go of his ailing soul mate, but he wasn’t. "I talk to him," he confided with embarrassment. "That’s what you should be doing," I affirmed. Read more…

Fearing No One Will Love You

Sunday, May 1st, 2011

Imagine that almost everyone in the world is a gay man or lesbian, or claims to be. You unfortunately are not. You were born into a gay family. Your parents are two women, or two men, who love you very much, and are very proud of you. You love them too, and want them to be proud of you. These are the people who taught you to walk and to talk, to read, and to draw. When you were very sick, they stayed up all night in your bedroom. They walked you to your first day of school when you were young. Read more…